| Schrijfsel | we are all a little fragile

we are all a little fragile

8 oktober 2017

i believe most, possibly everyone has a story, a beautiful story. And for many years i had the idea of somehow bringing those stories together. Whether i would interview people, or share their stories in a different way. I was sure about one thing; the obstacles of life, the hard times, every struggle we have gone through. They have helped shape us to who we are now.

So now i have the idea of using my blog as a sort of platform where these stories can be told, shared and loved. Because we all go through some shitty things, but we are never alone. We can share stories, nourish love and grow as persons.

I want stories written with a certain quality, not so much in the text but mostly in the underlying message it gives of. And i want my blog to be inspiring and positive. As i said we are never alone, and i really believe that by sharing, we can all benefit.

I always loved writing about the unspoken subjects, taboos and things that make us vulnerable. I haven’t always had the guts to share what i write. But as i grow as a person, i find it easier to talk about topics that are close to me. Things i wish i knew and words that we all need to hear sometimes.

But this goes way beyond me. So it got me thinking, why don’t i introduce some guest writers. Non-commercial, love-based sharing of stories.

I want to start it small by asking my friends and family, from there depending on how that goes, who knows to what it will lead. Maybe one day it will grow to a platform where everyone can share stories. Quality written stories told from the hearth.

I would love to hear what your thoughts are on this, and i am happy to say that the first guest post will be up within next week! And if you are open to share your story, either anonymously or not, please let me know as well and maybe we can work something out!

4 click the heart if you like the idea and want to let me know that :) or you can always leave a comment!

 

 

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Over wielen en geluk

5 oktober 2017

But we like having you as company! And yes, i also enjoy being with you. It’s just that sometimes, being the third wheel feels really lonely and unwanted. To be between friends.

Guys, i have a slight problem, again.

After being third wheel for a while i got to know both persons. We became friends. Shitty friends if you ask me, because what kind of friend are you if you can only meet when it’s the three of you.

I do get it, perfectly even, my boyfriend hanging out with my friends, without me? No, rather not.

Forced to be acquaintances. But what if they break up? Do i just say bye and never speak to them again? That’s also weird. But actually meeting and hanging out would possibly be even weirder.

Anyways, now a new dilemma arose.

Two people, yet again, the same story all over. If possible maybe a thousand times more difficult.

The main wheels form a highly unbelievably difficult existence. And now i, the third wheel, is doing all kinds of things, in the hope of not falling apart, to keep us rolling. Being friends of two people who can trust me, the subject of two, the admirer of two, yet left out by both.

All i want is for them to be happy. I thought so, in the mean time i want more. I want way more. Trying to give advise without any knowledge about the manner, me an emotional wreck with too many feelings. Sharing hurts, as i tell things to certain people with an intention, only for them to hear.

The last weeks i felt lonelier then ever. I finished an important chapter in my life, something i wanted to celebrate.

I hoped the person i wanted to celebrate it with would hug me and tell me how proud they are. I hoped it would be our secret and people would wonder what we were celebrating. But it wasn’t you who knew. The only one who knew was my partner in crime, my crazy lovely buddy. I can only hope we will know each other for a very long time.

But you, you are a different story. I knew it was complicated, but yesterday everything got more and more complicated. My head filled with confetti.

I like to keep my stories a bit cryptic, not only to prevent it being too personal and too difficult for me, but also to make you see the story and fill the gaps with your life. For you to know you are not alone, we all have struggles sometimes. A solidarity based on life obstacles.

I wrote it so cryptic, that even i don’t know about who i was talking about. Which is weird because i would expect myself to remember such an important thing. Truth is it could have been many people, in many different ways. I wrote this a while back obviously.

It became an incoherent whole, but i hope you can find something in this piece of text that speaks to you!

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With love,

Lali

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Growing (+some mumblings about my vacation)

29 juli 2017

I see the chance for growth. The work it will cost doesn’t matter, somehow the work and all the effort will be worth it. I will be worth it.

There are moments where I feel egocentric, for setting goals and focusing on me. But as I once wrote, by growing and trying to work to be the best I can be, I might inspire others. I might one day become a person who makes others feel how they deserve to feel.

That’s not too bad is it?

It’s important to have self-worth, self love. To feel good and to be happy.

When I feel good, I feel like I can give so much more. In sense of energy but also in the sense of actions.

As for now it’s time for a vacation. For me it means spending hours doing very little, including reading and making a long summer to-do list, and then mixing it with doing as much as possible and seeing as much lovely people as I can fit in my schedule. This year my vacation starts a month later, and unfortunately it should have started today. Yup that’s right, should have. I am hoping to prolong it by just one week but then again, I also want to start a new experiment based on the results from this week. And writing a report costs me more time and effort then I always imagine. I can’t really start and then I start and everything feels crappy. Whaaah, lots of stuff, many things on my mind. BUT weirdly enough, even though I can’t wait to finish my report. I don’t want to leave my internship. The place is filled with good energy and has slowly become like a second fourth? (I lost count) home to me. The work I do makes me happy, and the idea that my future job makes me happy, makes me even happier.

Love and peace!

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you are enough

6 juli 2017

tulips

i can be so open
in my thoughts and on paper
sometimes i am a bit weird,
in the sense that i put too much effort in things
things that seem so pointless to others

i am grateful for silly small things like someones love for socks, someone being their weird self, the joy of others in something they really like even if it seems like no big deal to me. A feeling someone gives of. A certain calm or a certain energized happiness.

I want to show people their worth. Especially if they don’t seem to see it themselves. Between a whole lot of arrogant stupid people there are so many souls that light up so bright, they blind themselves. I want to be the person who helps them notice, just how wonderful they are. How they are worth effort, time and space.

I believe in self-love. And at times i don’t live by it myself. Just a kind word can change a whole day, and you do not need to hear those words from someone else. You are enough <3

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Lifestyle

Minimalism, back on track

1 juli 2017

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Minimalism, a recurrent topic on my blog. It has been on my mind lately, ever since I watched the documentary Minimalism: a documentary about the important things. Even though i was not into the documentary (i found it quite disappointing), it brought back the urge to minimize. There are lots of tips I like to use, but then I don’t apply them. So I decided to write down some easy tricks to (start) living with less. They might be helpful for you as well.

  1. For people who wear make-up on a regular basis or clean their face (daily). There is this special cloth, I believe it is called the make-up eraser. It is a sort of microfiber-like cloth that cleans your face and takes make-up off, without an additional product. You just use a bit of water and then it works it wonders. I love it, because it works and it has multiple advantages: no/less make-up remover & less waste, which is great for the environment, yaay! After using it you can trow it in the washing machine and re-use it. I bought mine at the action (not sure if this shop exist outside of the Netherlands) it costed less then a euro and I will hopefully be using it for a long, long time!
    Additionally I have been using microfiber cloths cut up in little squares instead of cotton facial pads (wattenschijfjes) and that works great, I use them with a tea tree cleanser. And same as for the make-up eraser they are washable!
  2. Use oil instead of creams. There are many people who use creams on a daily basis, but if you are like me, you hardly ever use it. So I decided to part with my creams, with the exception of nivea which I love to use whenever I have a runny nose situation. As for oils, I am a huge fan of coconut oil, it makes my skin feel soft and it melts at body temperature. It doesn’t have a scent and I love to put it on at night and then wake up with super soft skin. And additionally coconut oil can be used for many many other things, which is great!
  3. A few questions to ask yourself when decluttering, instead of wondering what you want to get rid of do the opposite, what are the things that you really want to keep. It’s simple yet effective (for me at least). Another useful question is if you would see for this item in the store, would you buy it again?
  4. As for buying things, make sure you not only love it at the moment, but try to think if it will be an asset in your life.
  5. Read my article about 5 reasons to live with less, as a reminder.
  6. Keep it simple, yet not boring. Minimalism is about either loving what you have or using/needing it. If owning 50 notebooks makes you happy, keep them. Minimalism isn’t about living with as little stuff as possible, it is about loving the things that you own!

So these are some easy tips. Remember that you don’t do this in a weekend, it’s a lifestyle that takes some time. You go trough your belongings and that might take some time. And that is okay. It is definitely worth it (in my opinion).

 

Have a nice weekend! Let me know if any of these tips have been helpful.

What are your thoughts on minimalism?

Lots of love,

Citlali

 

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